Monthly Archives: November 2011

Fred in my Heart


Earlier this year my cat Fred died.  Over ten years ago, we found Fred in our backyard dirty, with marks of possible abuse.  Needless to say, it took awhile for Fred to trust people again.  We never gave up on him and over time he learned to trust his new people family.  The cat that we used to call “Grouchy Kitty” turned out to be a big mushy cat who loved to snuggle and give you head-butts.

The one fear that Fred never got over though was that of the vet.  Hiss, meow, bite and scratch.  He always put up a fight.  Then when we would get him home he would hide for days after the visit.  So after one rather tough day at the vet, I vowed to Fred, that unless it was an emergency, that would be the last time he went to the vet.

A few months before he died, we noticed that Fred was getting skinny and slowing down.  He was constantly hungry, but would throw up if he ate too fast.  I struggled with the notion of taking him to the vet, but I just couldn’t do it.  If he didn’t have much time left, I didn’t want him to be scared.  I wanted him to be peaceful.

The day he died, he curled up in his favorite spot.  His breathing was very labored.  I sat with him on the floor.  After awhile, he picked his head up, gave me and my husband a last meow and then he went still.  It was of course a sad day and I questioned if I had done right by Fred.  In my heart, I knew he did not suffer, but my doubting brain was second guessing my decisions.

Looking for a diversion, I hopped on the internet clicking on anything to distract my chatty brain.  The next thing I know, I am on a website for a peace conference that was going to be held in my home state of NJ.  On the website they had this graphic.



All of the sudden, the letters popped out of the screen.  Fred.  It turns out that “fred” means peace in Norwegian.  My brain stopped its chatter.  My heart took over and I knew that I had done right by Fred and I thanked the Universe for the validation.

As we here in the United States gear up for Thanksgiving, I thank the Universe for continually sending me the signs I need, the time I had with Fred and for the feeling of Fred, Norwegian and furry, in my heart.

Waka Waka (This Time for Africa)

I was waiting for the right time to feature this song.  I love Shakira.  She sings with so much passion and this song is no exception.  Waka Waka (This Time for Africa) was the official song of the 2010 FIFA World Cup.  Here are some of the inspiring lyrics that Shakira co-wrote with her producer John Hill:

The pressures on
You feel it
But you’ve got it all
Believe it
When you fall get up
Oh oh…
And if you fall get up
Oh oh…
Tsamina mina
Cuz this is Africa

From what I’ve researched, “tsamina mina zangalewa” is a phrase taken from a Cameroorian hit by the Golden Sounds and means something to the likes of “come do what you came to do.”

So this time, we are feeding our SOULs some music in honor of our newest SoulMate, Fortune Mutiti!

Fortune Mutiti

This summer my family and I took a vacation to Walt Disney World and stayed at the Animal Kingdom Lodge.  Right outside your room and all throughout the lodge are these great viewing areas of animals.  One day I was watching the sweetest Abyssinian ground hornbill gather up twigs and one of the Cultural Representatives came over to tell be about this most impressive bird.

Being the Disney Geek that I am, I knew that this very nice and knowledgeable man was from somewhere in Africa.  I asked him how he came to have this job.  I asked this simple question and for the next several minutes I was taken on a journey.  He told me that he got to where he was today because he had achieved three major goals.  He told his story to me with such clarity that I was blown away.  Each goal was built off the previous goal and each goal stretched him to broaden his horizons, so broad that he now found himself in another country.

I thought man, this dude needs to be a SoulMate.  Thankfully I had some SOUL business cards on me and told him about my site.  Then he told me that the name on his badge, Mutiti, was his sir name.  His first name was Fortune.  A guy named Fortune a SoulMate, how much better does it get.

So here are the lessons I learned from Fortune:

  • You are more likely to achieve your goals if you are clear and fully understand what you want to achieve.
  • How everyone has a story to tell.  You just need to ask them about it and be willing to listen.
  • It’s always a good idea for me to carry SOUL business cards.
  • And that the Abyssinian ground hornbill has an actual horn on the top of his head.

Abyssinian ground hornbill

Miss Potter


Miss Potter Movie Poster

“There’s something delicious about writing the first words of a story.  You can never quite tell where they will take you.”  That’s how the movie, Miss Potter, starring Renee Zellwegger as Beatrix Potter begins.

This sweet movie takes us to 1902.  Beatrix Potter is thirty-six years old.  She is unmarried and has just found a publisher for her children’s book, The Tale of Peter Rabbit.

Now a proper lady of this time would be married, attending social gatherings and having tea in the afternoon.  A proper lady would not be consumed with her drawings and be trapesing around the city to speak with publishers.  Beatrix was a rebel in her time.  This movie chronicles the highs and lows in the life of a 1902 rebel.

Do you question that you are too old to persue your dreams?  Do you think love will never find you?  If so, spend some time with Miss Potter.  This movie will take you on a journey which will have you rethinking those thoughts.