Monthly Archives: December 2012

Beyonce Challenge – Week 6

Last week was the first week that I really focused on getting down some of the Single Ladies choreography.

I watched the whole thing first. Choreography is basically to a four count.  That helps.  Beyonce has such a sassy vibe.  I love it.  I really can’t wait to do this thang!  I’m starting to envision what I’m going to wear and how I’ll do my make-up.  Should I wear a wig so I can flip my hair?  I crack up seeing myself in a wig.

OK.  Focus, Karen.  It’s time to really start learning this.  The plan is to start where any good adventure starts, at the beginning.  I hit play.  Fade up.  Right hand on hip.  Slight side step with a little hip.  Slight torso roll.  Then we put our hands up with a little side kick.  Hands on hip.  Hip bounces with attitude.  Point the leg forward.  Then we dip.  So far so good.  But, wait.  Now they are moving and turning.  The camera is moving and turning.  Which leg is she on?  Oh hell!

I stop the video and I walk over to my bed.  I lay face down and begin my pity party.  What am I doing?  How am I going to figure this out?  Who wants to see my 45 year old hips shaking on the internet?

I take a breath and remember how excited I was just a little while ago.  I was smiling and laughing.  I felt confident.  Ready to learn this whole thing.  What happened?  Simply, my attitude changed.  But why did my attitude change?  It changed because I couldn’t figure out the choreography.  I got frustrated and now I feel stuck.

A few weeks ago, I took a coaching certification class taught by Dr. Robert Holden. During the training Robert shared with us the psychology of stuck.  When the feeling of stuck comes up in our lives, the stuck is inviting us to be a good detective.  Stuck is a feeling and feelings want to recognized.  Feelings are indicators.   From working with clients for many years, Robert has found that the stuck feeling usually means there is a better way.

OK, Karen.  Lets put on that Sherlock Holmes hat and investigate this stuckness.


Question:  Why am I feeling stuck right now?


Answer from Head:  You can’t figure out the choreography.  You decided to learn this from the beginning.  You learned only two sections and now you can’t figure this out.  It’s over.


Answer from Heart:   It’s not that you can’t learn the choreography, you are having problem with one little section.  And why do you have to learn it in order?


Taking this information, I go back to watch the video.  In turns out that the part I can’t figure out constitutes about 11 seconds of the entire video.  11 seconds.  I feel like I can’t do the whole thing over a lousy 11 seconds?  I take another breath and I have a pow-wow with myself.  I don’t have to learn this in order.  I can skip that part for now.  And if I need to find a choreographer to help me with that part, I will.

My stuck thanks me for recognizing it and we move on.   Hands up.  Pump right hip….

Is Your Life Mapped Out?

When I was little, I used to go outside and ponder the universe.  I used to spend hours trying to figure out the big picture. Was I just a microorganism in a giant’s world?  Do I have undiscovered super powers?  It turns out author Dr. David Hamilton spent a lot of his youth pondering the same thing. So when I saw his new book Is Your Life Mapped Out? Unraveling The Mystery of Destiny vs Free Will, I felt like a giddy kid.

I came to know Dr. Hamilton’s work via another Hay House author, Dr. Robert Holden.  Robert had David on his Hay House Radio show a while back and I loved the way David was able to present scientific studies in a clear and concise way.

David started his career in the pharmaceutical industry researching the placebo effect.  The power of the mind fascinated him and he decided to leave the security of the corporate world to pursue his dream of becoming a writer and speaker.  “I had a depth of understanding of how the mind not only shaped the chemistry of life, but also shaped the chemistry of the body, and was will equipped to write about the power of the mind to heal.”

Is Your Life Mapped Out? delves into topics such as chronobiology, epigenetics and quantum physics.  Topics I have been drawn to lately.  This book is filled with lots “ologies” and “isms.”  Having majored in the sciences myself, I love all the technical, sciency, researchy terms.  If you don’t, still give the book a try because David has a knack for presenting the research in a way where you will eventually get it.  David uses lots of storytelling and examples from his own life to bring home the central idea of each chapter.

Now don’t get me wrong, at times I needed to read a section a few times before it sunk in, but we are talking heavy stuff here.  Things like how the lunar cycles affect our body, the power the mind has to change our genes, the connection of the conscious and unconscious mind, God and more.

Today, I still ponder the universe.  I question if I am on the right path.  At this particular moment I am at a crossroads and I am confused.  I take comfort in an analogy David presents in this book, “the tree of probable life.”

The trunk of our tree represents when we were young and our parents made choices for us.  But as we move up the tree, there are multiple branches.  Some are sturdier than others.  Some are longer than other.  All these branches are there on our tree representing all the choices we have and choosing moves us from one branch to another.  “The bigger choices aren’t always easy – they can take real courage.  But they are there for the taking, and the situations facing us are there because we are capable of meeting them as a higher version of ourselves.  If that weren’t the case then we wouldn’t be where we are.”

So here I sit, way up high in my tree.  The many branches I no longer see as overwhelming, but as exciting and abundant.  Is my life mapped out?  Some parts yes. Some no.  And I know that is ok thanks to David, science and the examples presented in this book.


FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.

Beyonce Challenge – Week 5

Last week I lost a ton of weight.  It was a weight that I was carrying on my shoulders for many months.  The weight was lost as I left my office for the last time carrying my life sized Edward Cullen.  Last week I got laid off from my job.  Don’t I look pretty happy for someone who has just lost their job?

For the last 22 years, I have made an income as an environmental, health and safety  (EHS) professional.  I have worked directly for or as a consultant to various industries helping them ensure their operations are in compliance with EHS regulations, developing programs, greening their products, etc.  It is something I do well and because I love the natural environment, I understand why what I do is important.  I also like helping people, coaching them to make their programs better.  It’s always fun when I can work in self-empowerment prinicples without anyone even knowing.  That’s when it doesn’t seem like a chore, like a job.

This last job became a job.  Things were not working out for me there and I always felt like my management did not value the work that I did.  You know I really can’t even remember a time when my management thanked me for working hard or told me really anything positive.  But last week, as it became known that I was being let go, it was amazing how many people took the time to reach out and tell me that they liked working with me and valued me as a professional.  Other EHS firms have already contacted me.  Clients want me to let them know where I land up.

I suddenly felt taller.  I felt happier.  I realized that I had been carrying around a huge amount of extra weight and losing this weight really makes me want to dance.

Beyonce Challenge – Week 4

To clarify what I am envisioning as the end result of the Beyonce Challenge, I thought I would share this video with you.

When you take a look, just substitute me for Shane Mercado.  I googled Shane and found out he lives in New York City.  Maybe I can recruit him to help me.