“Today, I am a person who is grateful-who has learned how to release attachment to outcome in my life, and who is in a phase of great transformation.” That’s how Karen McCrocklin defines who she is today. No wonder she isn’t that interested in talking about her past. But Karen is a smart lady. She knows that her choices and experiences have molded her into the person she is today, so she decides to share two stories with us.
Coming out as a lesbian at an early age, Karen soon found herself active in the LGBT community. Karen had a knack for whipping up a crowd. She was angry and she was good at getting other people angry too. Anger was not only a tool she used to motivate people into action, but it was also her fuel. One day, Karen realized she was spent. Her tank was empty. Anger and adrenalin were her fuel, and she had used it all up. Karen thought that there must be a better way, a more sustainable energy source she could tap into. She looked to spiritual teachers such as Louise Hay and Dr. Wayne Dyer for guidance. She discovered that there was an unlimited fuel source within us, but to access it Karen knew she had to first release the anger.
Story number two brings us to a private school for LGBT kids. Karen was serving as the Chair of the Board Directors. She was there to serve as a mentor and teacher to these kids, but she was about to get schooled by a 15 year-old boy. His name was Christopher and when Karen met him he was beaten and bruised. He was terrorized in his former school, but in the new environment, Karen watched Christopher blossom. He could wear the clothes he liked, even make-up without judgment. After about 8 months at the school, Christopher seemed depressed. Karen approached him and asked him how he was doing. He replied, “Now that it’s not a big deal that I am gay, how am I supposed to figure out who else I am?”
Through these experiences, Karen realized that all the advocacy to change the outside world for the LGBT community would be for naught if people didn’t love themselves first. She began to think what message could she provide to the LGBT community? How could she help teach people to honor who they are, live an authentic life and feel good? It turned out to be a simple message; be yourself.
Karen is one who practices what she preaches. She knows that she is doing her best work when she living an authentic life. Her number one goal is to please herself. She is both the driver and the passenger on a non-linear path that has included experiences such as:
- Ice cream truck driver
- Teacher/Mentor/ Advocate in the LGBT Community
- Television Producer
- Government affairs work in Washington, D.C.
- Owner of a video production company
- Trial Consultant
- Commercial Real-estate Developer
- Radio Host
Karen will soon add author to the list as she is working on her book Out from the Inside. But whatever she adds to the list, whether it be today, tomorrow or 10 years from now she’ll still be grateful, detached from outcome and on the verge of transformation living her authentic life.
SOUL Survey Questions
- How do you stay focused and motivated?
It comes down to two core things. I love seeing the incredible possibilities in life and I was blessed to be born with an innate curiosity about life. I want to understand the inner workings of things. So each day there is something new to learn.
- How do you deal with naysayers?
To me a naysayer is a teacher in disguise. They have been put in front of me to teach me something, how to play with them, how to dance with them. Maybe it’s time to learn a new step.
- How do you blur the lines between work and play?
Most people who know me will tell you that I turn everything into some kind of game. Play is what I am all about. It has taken me to so many different places. I am all about the playing.